New release date - and some thoughts on duration of break in period

So it has been decided: A later date for celebration of the initial  (break in) period of enforced chastity is set.

As said on Friday my wife was not very happy with my comment, and used that to cancel our appointment. But the fact that we are both occupied (work) separated from each other for many days until last third of November is probably also a major reason: We both want the release data to be special and not something to be hurried. 

The picture is found on internet. I am 
unsure who to credit. Wery nice 
CD by the way. Anyone knows the producer?

So this means that I in fact will have to live through the "90-day period" that has been defended and advocated by several wives that seen to be into this. A 90 day period is quite something, especially at the outset. Of course I long for some real good fulfilled sexual feelings, not just teasing. On the other hand I felt that 60 days of confinement was not a full therapeutic period. To quit after 61 days would have felt like not been given chance to fulfil what was recommended. 

Now that is out of the way. We have been given more days, more evenings to develop further a relation where my wife becomes more and more confident in her role as the Head of the House, more confident in issuing orders and expectations, more confident in deciding what matters to her, and what not. 

The 90 days will ideally be long enough for both of us to develop habits, routines and mindsets that makes things run more on auto, more natural and less cerebral.

I still feel I need more of her firm hand, more conversations, more pressure and more feedback/ conditioning such as rewards (again conversation is powerful) and punishments, and a touch of humiliation. I think "How To Set Up An FLR" by Georgia Ivey Green has some very good chapters that is helpful in putting things into perspective and useful everyday tips. 

As for humiliation, that is tricky. A lot is written about humiliation, but from an American cultural perspective. Not everything works the same way in Scandinavia. The taboos seems less, the tolerance ("not wrong, just different") somewhat larger. But then again, I think what my wife SAYS when involving med in possibly humiliating acts is probably what may make it embarrassing and thus makes it stick!

To illustrate: She ordered a pegging scene Friday evening.  As I understand, this should be very difficult for many men. I have to report that it is pleasurable, good for certain glands, and no: Not the slightest humiliating. Hmmm...?

The picture is found on internet. I am unsure who to credit. Wery nice CD by the way. Anyone knows the producer?

I knew it!

I felt it coming! Quick call home, 3 hrs before the end of my lockup time. Yepp! My wife had changed her mind. I had made a snide remark this morning before leaving early for work ( related to the fact that last night I was very exhausted and went to bed early, whereas she went to bed well after midnight when I was sound asleep). So no synchronisation. I was disappointed. This morning she was  completely unconscious when I had to leave, and I feared she had forgotten the whole date, due to her busy agenda today and more business the next two days. But not more unconscius than that she registered my remark!

As said before, I felt the weekend was becomming to crammed up already early this week, too crammed up for what could have been a nice, NICE weekend with plenty of time for adulthood.

In one way I am indifferent or even releaved. It would not have been what I was hoping for. So here I am, stranded, and a little blue. She has not communicated a syllable so far. We will see what evaporates from this. I am sorry, I struggle with this. i guess I am not indifferent after all.

Worldwide?

I am thrilled to se that we have readers, mostly in the US, some in Canada and once in a while in Europe. We understand it takes time to reach new readers, but  we would appreciate if some of you might give us a pip of encouragement. (NB: We can not see who you are or any adress from the map. We see what you see, no more)

It is evident that chastity is much more a topic in the Americas than in Europe. In Scandinavia, where we live, it is seen in the way that devices are sold, but noone seems to speak or write about it.

We hope you will visit our page in the future, as my wife and I are already convinced that this lifestyle is just what we needed to get out of the rut. The screenshot is from today. Yours April Child.

Extremely arousing device

We received a new package from China yesterday. It was the Stainless Steel Chastity Device  Bondage Cage. It was all but a Cage. Basically, when the device is in place, Junior is completely naked, able to be touched all over, but with one significant restriction: it is held in a constant curve by an outside steeel bar attatched to the base ring and running in parallel with an internal solid rod that passes through the urthra to. Point some 3/4 of an inch past the base ring. We decided to try it at bed time.

The effect was electrifying. Junior sprung to attention immediately after  beeong passed through the base ring and remained in that state for an hour or more when my wife teased me. ( the device was boiled and Junior washed with pure alcohol before we did the insert) . We were so exited that we decide to test how it was for an overnight session. From early this morning (Junior is an early bird) and all the time to the morning shower  I was nock hard and extreemely exited, sometimes on the edge, just spontaneously!

The fascinating thing is the feeling of rigidity, and the fact that all movement alowed when going from flaccid to erect and vice versa, is for Junior to slide op and down the pole, but beeing hindered to continue any elongation when he reaches the ball at the end. This is of course all but a chastity debice, and precUtion is needed to avoid urinary infections, but my oh my what a debice for an alternative Yard Time.

WY wife orderes another blissfull event this morning. I used my dexterity (F for fingers) to her full satisfaction. The scorecard is 29:0 at the moment. I wonder whether she will release me tomorrow

Getting close

It is Wednesday, and it is two days left of my initial chastity period, close to 60 days have been spent in a CD, with just short breakes with mostly supervised "yard times". A couple of times I have been unsupervised, but stayed on the narrow path. After all: What is the purpose if I short circuit the chastityperiod?

My wife is slightly unclear about whether Friday is a definitive date for being released or not. I am trying to be on my best behaviour and a part of me hope for no postponements. On the other hand: Saturday is booked for some social matters and Sunday she will be gone from early morning until who knows. So there is actually a very narrow window for unhurried enjoyment.

Is it better to postpone the releasedate until the calender is freed up , at least for 24 hrs without any other business? I wonder.

As for "hair-trigger" sensitivity: She made me make love to her this morning, the real penetrative way, Once again I am both suprised and proud that I was able to satisfy her demand without bursting.

Ah, Saturday

Finally!

This has been the best day so far. As can be seen from yesterdays chart, there have been periods with low activity. I have housed a boner for days on end, and been frustrated. This morning, LH first unlocked and teased me ( OK, I also did som fingering first, with her consent) , then had me mount her. I don't know how, but again I managed to bring her to fullfillment, whereas I was still left highand dry.

What foliowed was an intensive day of work, but when our work and necessary shopping was completed (EARLY afternoon), she asked me to change, clean up an strip in our bedroom. My wife had dressed up in an all black ensaemble: heels, stockings, garter belt, a rather provocative bra with feathers, leather gloves past the elbow, all drapen in a diaåhanous kimono like garment.  I was asked to put on the new " punishment briefs" that arived from China a couple of days ago and lie Down on Our bed. Thanks for the tip regarding the briefs from the Dominant Wife blog.. I then got an extended and thorough maintenance spanking (hairbrush& cane). She was in no hurry, took her time and in a rather leisurely manner gave my cheeks some Nice colour.

Then she lubed me up and took me, again slowly but surely, yaunted me and said there would be much more of this in the future, so I should just get used to it. When she finished a long strain of precum was hanging Down from my New Pepper Shaker CD. Wow.

The finale was that I was asked to make love to her , as an operator for " Enormous Eric". Eric showed up on Amazon.com and had features that was precisely what I thought my wife was missing, a bulbous head relative to the shaft, a shaft long enough to reach placed where I have not been, reasoably girthy and  reliable stamina for extended play.  Let us just say, Eric was a success. Her second climax for the day was a fact just minutes later. Bliss.

As I mentioned, I wore the  the Pepper Shaker. It  arrived from China today. So I was allowed to change. I wonder how the pepper shaker will feel during night and early morning. Time will show. Anyway, the extreme short cage, and the urethral tube triggers my adventurous mind. LH was sceptical.

All through the afternoon I could sense an "improvement" in her demeanor: today there were more of  sentences like " I will ....., now!" She still says it respectfully, so I find it very hot. Will she be more asserive and occupy the "throne" from now on? I cincerely hope.

It has been 54 days since my initial chastity period started. We have been logging each and every time my wife has had me satisfy her to completion.

I was under the impression that the frequency of complete satisfaction of my wife has gone down, so I analyzed the data. As can be seen, indeed, the frequency has deteriorated from once a day to once every second day. It is still more frequent than before our play started. On the other hand, if my releases ( that is before the lockup period) was included, we are now down to less orgasms (I am only counting releases where we were together as a couple) than before we started this extended chastity period.
I hope the fall in frequency will not continue to drop. I sincerely hope that the offer I have given, the self control and increased affection for my wife will result in a permanently increased apetite for life and playfulness on her hand. 

I am back home with my wife

Back home. I missed my wife every night of separation, and last day was nearly unbearble, despite the intense exitement it is to be hunting. But i will leave that for now.  Today it is 53 days since my CD was locked.

What have we experienced? The first thing that happended was more time together. this is partly a result of less time spent on Televison and newspaper reading. Despite an extremely busy period at work for both of us, heavy maintenence work on our house etc. we still feel that we have had sufficient time for general communication, talking about what we expect from our new effort to create a FLR and sexual preferences. There is a light and fresh air in our home.

What is best is that my wife actually says she experiences a change for the better. I will encourage her to put it in a few words, so I can forward it to possible readers.

As for me, the interesting part is that although I am very very "exited", mornings, during the day abd evenings, I want to keep going. A release is less important than the constant exitement and hornyness.      I crave her attention and I crave to be of service to her .  As for bedroom services, her demand have increased (good). Yesterday she had me make love to her the tradtionsl way. I was syprised to find I could hold back from spending, while syill being sble to bring her over the finishing line! Unbelievable. She said she was proud of me and that junior was harder than ever.

Increasingly, I crave her dominance, her relentless willpower, and being put in an unfamiliar situation where the only choice is to obey or take the consequenses.

It seems 60 days of initial lockdown is not sufficient time for her to grow into a dominant role she feels comfortable with, and a role that means real change for the both of us, hopefully for the better. That said, we are very happy at the moment. Problem is that I have read so much more about FLR, "reverse" Domestic Discipline, Humiliation, Chastity, Contitioning and Dominance, that when we finally have got going, my mind really races. A gap between fantasies and reality.
We have discussed prolonging the first period, as suggested by "Mistress Angela" in "The wives wiew", but my dear wife has not drawn any conclusion.

On the disciplinary side, I have been told that " we need to speak" about locking doors. I forgot to lock the door when I was out for a short erand tuesday evening, and my wife arrived home from work just before me. She noticed. So this weekend may bring chastcement and a good old lecture. I can feel a twitch down there, from exitement, but in parallell I dread the upcoming pain. Strange and exiting, definately NEW.

Busy hunting

This week my wife and me are separated by several hundred kilometres. Hunting season is here. I am locked up, chaste, focused and fairlly happy. It means that I dont have much time to think about carnal matters. Which for one is good, but on the other hand: the separation means her upper hand is not a day to day reality, so we loose som training time. Looking forward to next Sunday, when things is back to normal. By the way: two animals down so far...

Sorry - I have a question:

The Internet is abundant with testimonials praising the benefits of living in chastity and the necessity to secure this by locking up the husband.

At present it seems like I will develop a flue. My muscles are aching, I feel cold and stiff in all the wrong places. That reminds me of an episode a year ago: We practiced a chastity period using my CB3000 for a week or so, and I experienced that my light flue, developed to a urinary tract infetion that had to be remedied with antibiotics , but considering my age, the doctor wanted a thorough examination, he was really worried about my health down there, but an intrusive examination was normal, the blood test made him worry. A new blood test 6 weeks later was normal.


So my question is this: Is it possible that extended wearing of CDs can result in urinary tract infection or prostatitis? Should we practice more "yard time" on "honor code"


To be honest: during the 5-10 years we have practiced frustratingly on/off periods wearing a CD (as I have told: she "forgot" or neglected me every time), I may have ended up With 4 infections, which trips all alarms in physicians. Still all test show that after the infection is gone, everything is fine.


What do you know/say. Any references?


Another observation is that I am alone these days, I had to unlock my self to take care of junior, an fore some strange reason I do not succumb to pleasuring myself. Is it as my libido have hibernated. Rings any bells?

Is it OK?

As I mentioned I had blues yesterday, due to the fact that my wife is away. And I changed the CD to another. I can report that I am very happy with the new CD. The fact that the tube reaches past the ring obviously makes it more "safe", but it feels more comfortable as well. I would not be surprised if The CBseries will get increasing competiotion from this concept. The "Dickcage" and the "Holy Trainer" (sic) seems to be made on the same concept.

I have made myeself busy today, very, so I have not had much time for sulking. Still I have a question: Is it advisable to be separated for many days during a "breaking in period"? As I see it now it might represent a huge stressfactor, at a time when we should  go the road together? As ot is said in "The Wives View":  "Enforcing the first three month period will allow him to get in to the proper frame of mind and make him understand your desire and your commitment and your determination to his being chaste; it will also give you the chance to develop the strength to say "no". "

Well,  she leaving me, could raise the question, is she really committed?

Just asking. any replies out there? i wish you a good weekend!

Change of device, blues and temptations

As my readers may have realized my wifes intention is to go for an extended initial lockup time. Last weekend she revealed the date she has decided for me to be unlocked, October 23rd. she says it is a tentative date; the lockdown may be prolonged as punishment, should there be displeasing issues popping up. The date means at least two moths time in cage, I sincerely hope that our experiences by that time will have made my wife grasp the opportunity to continue test of WLM.

The dtime I have spent in cage have given us some experiences. We used "the Curve" initially with the largest ring, later the "CB3000", after three weeks we were down to the 1 7/8" ring and it seemed to run smoothly.
However, recently, one evening when we going to bed I just felt like the cage was rather loose. In fact my wife was able to pull it off junior, and it was just dangling around the marbles. So after some research, we decided to try another CD that seems to have a reputation to be reliable and comfortable, the Rikers Master-series device. It arrived yesterday and I did change into the new device and are anxious to learn how we (the device representing my wife, and me) will interact. The ring seems very comfortable. As my wife was going away for five days we replaced the  key/padlock with a seal befor she left. So I actually had to break the seal to make the change . So just now I operate on "honour code" now until  she is back. Honour code as I have access to the new set of keys.

My motivation to endure such a long uninterupted period without being allowed to spend is strong but not unshakeable. I know how exitement drops and takes days to reemerge. That should be sufficient for me to refrain from any "self abuse", although I can be tempted, and from time to time horny to the extreme.

Actually: To be left alone for some days, without the day to day contact and encouragement from my wife seems to be much harder than when we are together. I foresee that this weekend will be hard for me to enjoy, and impulses to make the time pass faster, with masturbation will be there, 

A full month

A full month has passed since my wife and me agreed ro examine what happens when we we agree to lock me up, I abandon my ability to masturbate and let her decide who, when, and how. As mentioned my ide was the playful +/- one week on and off, but then the article of Mistress Angela ("The Wives Wiew", also shown as a letter to Kathy Christian in "Mychastehubby") showed up and argued strongly for a three months initial lockupmtime. It ignited me, It became an exiting fantasy, but also an almost unreal challenge.

One full month has passed since I was caged. Based on previous habits I have lost some 30-50+ releases. I have not missed one of them. Well there have been times where I have been exteemelynhorny and needing, but the development between my wife and me have more than compensated.  My wife have fully demonstrated her will to control our common sex life. She has repeatedly expressed her pleasure with our new arrangement! And she does not see it as a kinky play, but rather a dead serious reality. 

Sex has improved drastically, our everyday habits have changed, all for the better. She is happy, sexually more active and sated. And strangely enough I feel the same way, even unreleased.

What has happened with DD? Not that much. Originally that was part of the deal, and I crave it. When we agreed to try out a period where I totally submitted myself to her, DD was part of the deal.  But somehow we have ended up in a romance where rewards and an exchange of nice words dominates, and only once have I been punished. 

We have discussed this during the weekend. Clearly I crave it (DD), and clearly she has not seen the need for it. And it is not part of her natural "reportoire". After having read four articles in the "Malechastityjournal.com" and reminding ourselves about respondant and operant conditioning, my wife have agreed to pursue the DD concept. 

Separation due to business travel on my part and her having some days vacation means there will still be a week or so before intentions can materialize. I am anxious to see what it will do for us. But even without DD we can report a nicer atmosphere in our home, much more closeness and hardly any quarrels.

As a part or her decision to include more of rewards and punishment to our chastity and WLM  regime, she revealed the date she has set for my first release after I was locked up: Friday October 23rd. 

Quite right, not three months time as suggested in some articles, but on the other hand, a date has been set and now there is a carrot dangling in front of me. There is a new dynamic: the possibility to be rewarded (shortened time) or punished (prolonged waiting time. It made it possible to include a countdown date to our blog, above the lockup count up timer. 

Do I look forward to my first release after two months lockup? Yes and no. Yes, I long for it. But on the other hand: a part of me would like to be able to experience how a full three months sexual abstinence would influence on the relation, romance and everyday life between my wife and me.

Intimacy

We woke up at 7:00 and talked for quite some time. Busy days, but we were able to spend some qualitytime together before we had to start the daily routines. I think we both felt quite at ease, I was let out from the cage and sported a nice morning wood. Over the years my Wife have developed an amazing dexterity, and I was in heaven.


Then I was invited to mount her, face to face fashion! OMG. Junior was at his best behaviour: Firm, reliable and erect and the love-making was very pleasant, extended and emotional. It was implied that I was not to spend, which I managed. I do not know how and why. But I rode my lovely Wife over the finishing line. The tally is now 16:0, and I am happy, relieved, proud and still "woody" at times. Do I want a release now? Honestly I am not sure.


We will discuss more about the fact that I did not strive to keep mye seed at bay. Is that a problem? Any of our few readers that have experience here?

Something is missing (?)

When this started, I had no idea about the duration. Actually I was thinking in the realm of days/ a week or so. As of yesterday it was my 22.nd day in chastity. To be honest I have been allowed some supervised "yard time": time to clean the device (supervised) and some time out for her T&D, but still: I have not peaked at any time.

However, a few days after the lockup, we read some articles that was crystal clear about a "breaking in period" (twitch, twitch):

• "It is almost universally held by women who seriously practice chastity with their husband that initial enforcement of chastity should be at least three months of continuous wear without relief after you go through the break in period of getting a device that fits.
•  Preventing him from having an orgasm for a three month period may seem a bit harsh but it is paramount to your success as it allows his body and mind to adjust to the lack of masturbation and sexual pleasure as desired. Enforcing the first three month period will allow him to get in to the proper frame of mind and make him understand your desire, your commitment and your determination to his being chaste.  It will also give you the chance to develop the strength to consistently say "no".
   
  My reaction was split but initially the Nr.2 impulse took priority:

1.      It seemed unrealistic, and I thought my wife would react negatively. Actually, she has not commented at all. She has not by any means, indicated that happy days are just around the corner. She claims she has decided on a definite date for release - but she will not disclose it to me..... She can be a very determined Lady when she has decided to go for something.

2.      One part of me, the masochist, could clearly feel the twitching, just thinking about the very stern Message hidden in those lines and the implications.

Now, 23 days later I tend to have a more dim view on a three months excursion. I can see many good reasons, one of them is to demonstrate to my wife that I do not regard this as a play, my intentions are serious, and as such, I expect her to take it serious as well. For sure, keeping my emotions on log will only be more and more valuable and interesting, the more time I spend as a chaste husband.

BUT now my emotions are changing: My wife went away to visit friends for the best part of the weekend, whereas I was to hold the fortress. 

For the first time ever second thoughts kicked in. "What have you brought upon yourself?" I was actually very blue, depressed, unable to be productive, just sulking. I was intensely missing access to junior and missing the possibility to orgasm, totally left out. Sunday night she returned and I talked to her, explaining what I was going through, and that I intensely felt the lack of control and influence over my "pet", the ability to satisfy and console myself, however brief the consolation would be. The reality having to rely on her considerations and generosity was kicking in. I told her that the fact that I am not to beg her for release, but to "trust the process" feels very demanding.

My wife's first reaction was that she might spank me for sulking. However, she realized she had not established a rule against sulking, and therfore it would be unfair to punish me for it. We instead had a nice conversation and I think she realized that my concerns were sincere and troublesome for me.

The night ended peacefully with some serious T&D and Monday morning I felt better. We will see what the future brings. Next time I will tell what happened this morning (Tuesday morning).