Stress relief

Very very unconcentrated today! I had a lot of pressure yesterday. Had a role in a large official function. Moreover my wife was busy long into the night. So yesterday kind of disappeared and we were exhausted. However Jr. voke up early and kept pestering me, so when my wife woke up I had been thinking, fantasizing and imagining what might evaporate before I had to rush to work. Well. Mu Wife had all the time , she decided to stay at home. After some Nice cuddling and jr.'s immense drooling my wife finally ordered me to giver her some lip service (big reward  and enforcement). Well. On work today I had problems concentrated. I was shaking, trembling and simply could not focus. Back home, my wife was on Telephone for a good hour. I had to busy myself, which I did.  Coming home second time, my wife had picked up on my situation and asked me to go to the bedroom and undress. On display were her tools of the trade, a quirt, a strap/belt and a cane. She told me she wanted to give me some stress relief. and that was it. some good physical treatment, my stress was gone and I am back on track, calmed. Lif is good.

Busy, but all fine!

Quite busy for some days, but everything works smoothly. My Wife seems to have grasped the opportunity this time. Yesterday she sendt me a short message." I just want to say that I enjoy what we are doing these days. I feel we get closer (heart)". It is probably the best message I could get, a confirmation from her. To say that junior swelled when I responded to her is to put it mildly. I replied that I as well felt at ease and experienced a brighter mind that I can recall for years. And this was after just 15 days.. I am anxious to learn where this leads us. So far it feels like coming home after a long an exhausting Journey.

Classic and Operant Conditioning

Anyone interrested in WLM should read the Wiki article on this topic, first Classic conditionig - dealing with behaviour beyond will control of the husband: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Classical_conditioning, Secondly on operant conditioning that are dealing with behaviour that is controlled by the will of the husband:  https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Operant_conditioning.

Resourceful wives wanting success in her leadership, should read those articles and extract what is useful in her training. The interesting part is: It does not influence the results whether the husband is aware of theese techniques or not. The techniques will work!

An article that illustrates some of this is: "The Dominant Wife and the Submissive husband". It looks like it is copy/paste from previous sources,and that the original Author is not credited.
Anyhow, I found it here: http://dominiantwives.blogspot.no/2011/05/dominant-wife-and-submissive-husband.html.


Before you read it, just one remark on one disturbing error (as far as I can see):


It is stated in the second paragraph, dealing with respondent (classic) conditioning that "operant conditioning refers to behavior that are not under your husband's control". That is confusing. The correct is that " classic conditioning refers to behavior that are not under....".  Later the article are dealing with operant conditioning, and there the author gets it right: " --"the process by which you modify a behavior under Your husband's control by manipulating and controlling the consequences to him of the behaviour"


To my Readers, if any: I recommend these articles.

2.nd Wednesday, day 10

Last night i came home late. My wife was upstairs, preparing for bed, unusually early, ( before 10 pm!, the TV was left cold) donning a nice navy outfit, and what I immediately noticed, some very nice large earrings in white gold. That was new, and encouraging. She seems to tap into secondary reinforcers. We had a nice talk, lots of cuddling and minor differences. I got one remark that warned me to slow down, and my hinting on some lip service was not welcome. She emphasized that I could not expect the scorecard to change that rapidly in the future. So, a small clash there. But not serious, more like a reminder and caution.

This morning a woke up early. Repeated "cramps in the leg", and it would not go away. Around 8 am she woke up. we then had a nice cuddly morning, none of us had a hurry, yesterday night was gone, I was dribling and there she was again, demanding! I cannot explain why, is this sublimation? Anyhow, to be allowed yet another time to elevate my wife into the bliss-zone feels like a priviledge. She came like a steam engine. Thereafter some more talk about what my part of the deal was, and that her part is to  keep stoking the boiler. Agreement. We also discussed the place DD would have. I actually long for some maintenance in that department, just to realize even more what a firm, respectable, desirable authority my wife is. And playful.

By the way: Whereas many blogs are certainly fiction, this is actually a precice log with notes what happens with the psyche in a relation where WLM is tested. Neither me, her nor anyone knows yet. But it will be nice to look back when we have spent more time in it. So far, so good.

By the way: How do I include pictures in thos blog template? Anyone can explain? there might be need for illustrations.

Starting on week two..

Nice teaseful morning today. The CD was cleaned and i wnet directly into continued lockdown. Still no indication from her regarding how long she will heep med caged and missing a release.


Not very eventful day at work, but i could certainly feel mye wifes will present down there. It makes me aroused, andIi had to browse a few articles from femaleledmarriage.blogspot.com , a dormant site with some nice articles, although our favourite site is mychastehubby. blogspot.com, written by Katie Christian, a very sober and realistic site - Congratulations!.  


Now it is bedtime, and I am very apprehensive. ..

1.st Wednesday, 26th of August

Well. Wednesday we were both busy long into the evening. I returned from a demanding day and rewarded my self With the better part of a bottle of wine, read the newspaper and had some telephone calls. My wife is very aprehensive regarding making telephone calls in the evenings after a few glasses of wine. She listened in, and after I hang up she voiced her resentment: I was not to make calls after three glasses of wine. She  claimed she could hear a slightly slurred speach and would have nothing of it. And there she was, cane in hand, took me to the bedroom, closed the Windows an asked me to take down my  jeans and underpants.

She made clear what changes she expected, scolded me and 12 of her best followed, whereafter she  asked me whether her Message was understood! My oh my! My wife clearly takes her role in a WLM seriously. Today, Sunday, my behind still clearly bear witness to what happened, although the soreness is gone. But Boy: I am proud of her, and find this way of making up for differences so much better than nagging, complaining and screaming. So much more dominant and secure. So much better for both of us!

Welcome. We are retrying Wife Led Marriage

Sunday August 23rd, at 09:00 the padlock securing my Chastity Device clicked shut on me, and my wife  took care of the key... on a silverchain around her neck, nesting in nicely on her chest.
The former evening, after a prolonged discussion, my wife agreed to give it another try. I had had too many "Lock and Forget" experiences, and to say I was frustrated is to put it mildly.


The new element was that my wife realiazed that in order to make our relation dynamics change, there was a need for both to make an effort.


My effort would be (as I have always asked for) to hand over the control over the use/abuse of my smaller parts (With its consequences, such as no more self indulgence and even to abandon the initiatives). This implied beeing locked up for as long time as she felt for it.


Many, especially couples where the wife is a housewife emphasize the importance of the male to take on much more of the housework, in order to free up time for the wife, giving her a chance to channel energy to the relationship dynamics: Well,  our relationship is based on a more Equal burden sharing, and we both work outside Our home full time. This means there is less to change here. I basicly make all food and clean up afterwards and purchase the food and feed needed, etc. and make beds, garden etc. and we both walk the dog.


So my other efforts to improve would be to control my temper, be a more attentive listener and generally communicate better and nicer. 


My wife has - after our long Saturday night discussion realized that in order for WLM to work for us, she needed to put more energy into it as well.


That would imply less time to watch TV,  more time together, going to bed earlier, to free time for cuddling, talking things over and sex. My wife seemingly have decided to be more sexually active (se counter), attentive, flirtuos og teasing - indeeed turned up the heat. On the other hand, the notorious time thief, the TVset remained at best luke warm last week-. 


We discussed how to keep some attention even during daytime - and agreed to try- such as e-mails, SMS or a telephone. My wife assured me she saw that lock/forget would not work, and that it was needed by her to give positive signals that she remembered my predicament and appreciated my offerings. She certainly are aware of psychological techniques as positive reinforcement and conditioning.


So what has happened - after one week?
OMG! The week has been like a breeze. very few differeces, lots of really nice romantics, love, kiss and hug and teasing arousing remarks demonstrating that she has definately not forgotten what we are up to. So this time seems to be different from many previously failed attempts.


How was it for me: I have been in heaven. Horny, attentive. The CD has caused no trouble, but been there, reminding me of its presence, and the fact that it operates on behalf of my wife. Mornings are demanding, and so are the moments where she give remarks or fondles, and I love it. I had some unpleasant sweelling on Friday, so I was offered some yard-time under strict surveyance until the edema was gone, Saturday morning, the night on honor code. 


How has it been for her? What I have seen is this: She has demanded special full service every day (sometime in the mornings, sometime in the evening. Wednesday no business, but on the other hand - yesterday she had two releases, one oral in the morning and one using my junior in the evening. Very romantic, retracted time, where she ahda a thunderous climax, and I remained unreleased and loaded. Then back in the Cage. 


The conclusion is that this time she has really stepped up her demand-side and seemingly also decided to og for the flirting and teasing Component. The combined effect is that BOTH of us - we - have had the most romantic and rejuvenating week I can remember.


I might come back to Wednesday and what happened. Stay posted. Life is Good.