Sunday August 23rd, at 09:00 the padlock securing my Chastity Device clicked shut on me, and my wife took care of the key... on a silverchain around her neck, nesting in nicely on her chest.
The former evening, after a prolonged discussion, my wife agreed to give it another try. I had had too many "Lock and Forget" experiences, and to say I was frustrated is to put it mildly.
The new element was that my wife realiazed that in order to make our relation dynamics change, there was a need for both to make an effort.
My effort would be (as I have always asked for) to hand over the control over the use/abuse of my smaller parts (With its consequences, such as no more self indulgence and even to abandon the initiatives). This implied beeing locked up for as long time as she felt for it.
Many, especially couples where the wife is a housewife emphasize the importance of the male to take on much more of the housework, in order to free up time for the wife, giving her a chance to channel energy to the relationship dynamics: Well, our relationship is based on a more Equal burden sharing, and we both work outside Our home full time. This means there is less to change here. I basicly make all food and clean up afterwards and purchase the food and feed needed, etc. and make beds, garden etc. and we both walk the dog.
So my other efforts to improve would be to control my temper, be a more attentive listener and generally communicate better and nicer.
My wife has - after our long Saturday night discussion realized that in order for WLM to work for us, she needed to put more energy into it as well.
That would imply less time to watch TV, more time together, going to bed earlier, to free time for cuddling, talking things over and sex. My wife seemingly have decided to be more sexually active (se counter), attentive, flirtuos og teasing - indeeed turned up the heat. On the other hand, the notorious time thief, the TVset remained at best luke warm last week-.
We discussed how to keep some attention even during daytime - and agreed to try- such as e-mails, SMS or a telephone. My wife assured me she saw that lock/forget would not work, and that it was needed by her to give positive signals that she remembered my predicament and appreciated my offerings. She certainly are aware of psychological techniques as positive reinforcement and conditioning.
So what has happened - after one week?
OMG! The week has been like a breeze. very few differeces, lots of really nice romantics, love, kiss and hug and teasing arousing remarks demonstrating that she has definately not forgotten what we are up to. So this time seems to be different from many previously failed attempts.
How was it for me: I have been in heaven. Horny, attentive. The CD has caused no trouble, but been there, reminding me of its presence, and the fact that it operates on behalf of my wife. Mornings are demanding, and so are the moments where she give remarks or fondles, and I love it. I had some unpleasant sweelling on Friday, so I was offered some yard-time under strict surveyance until the edema was gone, Saturday morning, the night on honor code.
How has it been for her? What I have seen is this: She has demanded special full service every day (sometime in the mornings, sometime in the evening. Wednesday no business, but on the other hand - yesterday she had two releases, one oral in the morning and one using my junior in the evening. Very romantic, retracted time, where she ahda a thunderous climax, and I remained unreleased and loaded. Then back in the Cage.
The conclusion is that this time she has really stepped up her demand-side and seemingly also decided to og for the flirting and teasing Component. The combined effect is that BOTH of us - we - have had the most romantic and rejuvenating week I can remember.
I might come back to Wednesday and what happened. Stay posted. Life is Good.
